Fighting

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months and 3 days. I love him so much and Im sure he feel the same way too. Okay, we started dating and everything was perfect before, and we never fought. But as time progressed, it seems as though we fought more and more and I always end up in tears.  We still have fun together of course...lots of laughter, but we fight a lot. Im at a loss at what to do at the moment cause we just argue about anything and yes it's always comes from me. Im the one who always pick up a fight. So when emotions escalated to shouting, I knew something had to change. I had to change. There was something to be learned here. 

When we get into fighting, he doesn't show much emotion he gets angry with me, which he says it is  my fault cause I make him angry and sad when we argue, I guess thats fair enough Im the same its just he used to be so calm and all I want him to do is to take my hand when Im upset and look at me and tell me that he loves me and everything is gonna be alright. However, he really takes a long time to cool me down before i started to yelled all over things. I always say i can't cope anymore and Im leaving him but at the end of it all I go back to him cause we both say we want a future together and we love each other. There's a point that I don't think I can't live with him if its like this all the time. And I have a feeling like one of those days I'm not going to be able to handle it anymore and we will split.But then, those evil thoughts in mind blown away when at the end of fighting, we have that "honest talk" together about things that we fought for. He we hold me, and look into my eyes, cooling me down. Light a light bulb off in my head, I began to soften up, and began to relax. When I relaxed, I forgave, and released something from the past. 

I don't want this to happen, but sometimes nothing seems to work. I always want to talk with him about how we need to stop because things are going to get worse if we don't especially when we are getting married soon.. soon enough. I know, Im a sensitive person and admit the groundless jealousy in me and always had this worry wart about him. I just want him to know that I do and I do care about him. Always! I could only wish and pray to Allah S.W.T to make us a strong person in facing all obstacles and trials of life and lead us to a happy life forever, until.. the end of a time.

 

Im always seek for solving all problems through good motivation articles,  and this is one I took from one article about how to cope with fighting in a relationship:-

"Shut up and touch. Brooke says there's a point where discussing the matter doesn't help. So couples need to just hold each other when nothing else seems to be working. "Reconnecting through touch is very important." - Im totally agree with this point. Thank you.