Our Short Story

When I got engaged the other day, people often asking me how I met him, how we finally end up to marriage thing. Okay, this lens is going to be about how me and my future husband met each other. I hope you'll find it entertaining. First of all, I would like to thank Mark Zuckerberg and his little idea called Facebook. I'm sure Mark Zuckerberg has heard many I-found-love-on-Facebook stories through the years, but my love story is unlike any other. I never knew when I created a Facebook account to connect with friends and relatives, might be in 2007 I guess. 

When I met my future husband, I had been in a relationship with someone else. Honestly, my previous relationship always doesn’t last long (less than 5months) for reasons that I would say men that I met were mostly a jerk. You know, the men who were much older than they claimed, the ones who were definitely not looking for anything beyond a bed buddy and the guy who not only ordered my tea but waited until I paid for both of us and then claimed the change. The relationship had been dead for about 3months, and I was thinking about leaving the relationship anyways, but I always find difficulty to end a relationship, have no gut to do that. So one day, I was on Facebook and  was chatting with some people in my buddy list ( well, since I’d only approved people on Facebook so basically I don’t even know them all). I thought of seeking an advice about ending my relationship from the unknown friends, so I chose people randomly and start chatted. 

Okay how I met my future husband was when he added me randomly from his Facebook with no mutual friends. It was in 2008 before he went to UK to pursue his studied. I’d just approved him at that time without bothered who he was. We’ve never chatted or commented on each other wall since then until 2009 he got back from UK. To begin with, we were on chat without knowing each other, and I seeking his advices about my relationship and he gave a good responds to it. I then managed to end my relationship but as time flies, I realized that the man that I’ve known from Facebook had been a good listener to all my problems, my joys and pains. We’re being good friends after that, and we shared problems together and most of the time love and relationship would be our main topic since he had been into a relationship that time. Since then, we instant messaged each other for days, for hours at a time. I couldn't put what I felt for him into any logical perspective. My hands shook in anticipation and my stomach fluttered every time I saw him pop up on my buddy list. I have no idea why but I know my feeling towards him was not more than just a friend. And so, I met another guy accidentally on Facebook and again I got into a relationship with another man. And again, as expected I broke up with my previous ex. I had been in several relationships within the past two years that were toxic, damaging to my self-esteem and to my understanding of love. Sigh!

As usual, we always keep in touch each other every day and this time around he talked much about his girlfriend and their relationship. Although we’ve been busy with work, we sometimes dropped a line. However, day by day, I only listened about his relationship that’s going to end and he was so upset. Almost every day I listened to the same problems of his, and like always, I gave him courage, advice, motivate him and stayed on call with him until 2-3am in the morning. Nak jadikan cerita jugak, last2 dia pun break dengan ex dia (I start rojak malay yeah). Later on, we continued chatted about work, about my studies, no love no relationship topic like before. Finally, after chatting for one year and a half, I realized that I missed him, this man I had never even met. We finally managed to meet in person on February 2011!! =)

He came and pick me up at my house and we had a casual tea evening date and we never stopped talking until all night long. It was like we had known each other for years. From that day we were never apart, we see each other every day, we had our lunch together and run for a movie at night. We’ve been best friend not long after that when he confessed that he likes me and I realized that I was accidentally fell in love with him but was afraid that it’s gonna end up like all my previous blows. But giving myself another chance to fell in love again with him was really worth it. I had never felt this connected to anyone before, never missed anyone so much, never felt my heart jump when I heard like it did when I heard his voice. We knew what we had was a once in a lifetime kind of special. 

From the day we met, it was barely five months later when he asked me to be his wife. We both decided to take step further into this relationship. He then met my parents, and we got engaged on October 18^{th 2011}. Our relationship and engagement has had the expected ups and downs (as any relationship should), but it is a dance. We may grow apart for awhile, fight, be immature and selfish, but we always find ourselves back together, embracing, and moving as one.  I have come to understand the meaning of love as it was meant to be.  It is grace, a necessary redemption, and a beautiful transcendence from the ugliness we all have inside of us.

After been dating for 10 months, we finally tie the knot on December 4^th 2011. I’d never know that sometimes our future is sitting right before our eyes. We just need to open them long enough to see it. And finally, I learned over time that the "What if we hadn't met?" question is an unfathomable one for me. My future husband, who is now also my best friend, who will be the father to my kids all rolled into one, might, be just another stranger I once met on internet (Facebook). It's nice to know that once in a while, fate really does matter. =)